Saturday, January 7, 2012

the midwife.

Next week I have an appointment with the midwife in my doctor's office.

I asked for his ok to see her only because I really like him and the other doctor who I've seen for my last six pregnancies.

I guess that I just feel some kind of loyalty to them and didn't want to offend them by seeing the midwife. I know that sounds kinda crazy in this day and age where people come and go without a word or explanation and they tell you they don't owe you anything, but I'm just old fashioned like that. I do think they're great doctors too.

Hopefully the midwife will have all the answers I want to hear regarding having this baby naturally like Jasper's birth. Only this time, I want an even better experience.

One day I so badly desire a home birth-- I'm just way too chicken to take the leap of faith in that area at this time.


*Ross and Katy* said...

I have read your blog and never commented, but I felt the need to today. While I had a completely normal pregnancy and I even had a checkup the day my son was born, I would not advise a "home" birth, but maybe a birth center if you want that type of experience. After my son was born I talked to my doctor for a long time and he explained to me why it was such a good thing we'd gone to a hospital (because he knew that I had wanted to stay at home). We both ended up ok, but my son had the cord wrapped around his neck twice-and it was tight and this wasn't known until his head had already come out. We ended up having to get a neo-natal doctor in to make sure that his windpipe was ok. I don't want to scare you, but I felt like I needed to share. Since then, I've decided that while I would LOVE to have a home birth for our next child, that instead I will probably go to a birth center attached to a hospital that way, just in case we need help, it will be there, but I can still have the more relaxed environment :)

Thoughts for the day said...

I am not sure I have ever commented either but after hearing a variety of 'almost' tragic circumstances during birth I am not a fan of home births, a clinic setting can be comfortable and SAFE. One blog I have read had a life and death situation she had minutes to get back into surgery before she bled out and they had to do a complete hysterectomy because of the 'severe' birth issue. Mommy and baby are great now but if they had been home, it would not be such a good story. It is VERY risky to have a home birth anything can happen at the very end.

A Romantic Porch said...

I love to read your blog because I'm from a large pastor's family. I am sorry that I rarely comment. Or I don't know if I ever have. I am the youngest of 10 and my mother was a pastor's wife. Today is her birthday. As I was writing today's posting on my blog about my mother, I couldn't help but think of you and how you are in the busy busy time of childrearing.

Only my mother's first child was born at home. That's the way it was done back then I suppose. I believe she was happy to go to the hospital for the other births.

God will guide you in this. I know you are aware of that.
Have a wonderful evening.
xo rachel

Gretchen R said...

I know how you feel about loyalty to your doctor. My doctor's wife is a very good friend of mine and I want to go with a midwife for our next pregnancy. We don't have midwives at our clinic here as it's just a little town. We have already decided, though, that our next one will be born at home, Lord willing. We were too chicken last time and the whole birth I was regretting that.

People have various ideas of what a homebirth can look like and what midwives look like. They handle cords around necks, bleeding out, etc just as often as doctors do. The main difference is hospitals sometimes unintentionally propel many problems by encouraging women to lay on their backs, and suggesting drugs that restrict the movement of a woman in labor. I had my last baby naturally at the hospital, but getting out of there without drugs was an uphill battle. I'm so excited to have a birth with a qualified midwife as a safety net, in close distance to the hospital.