a level of standards.

My husband and I have been discussing modesty a bit. This topic is something I believe the Christian world is losing sight of.

Slowly the lines between Christian modesty and fitting into the world are becoming blurred. And certain Christian circles are in it.

The more children I have, the more my husband and I raise our standards for modesty in our lives and the lives of our children.

Like I said in a past post, I do not only wear ankle length skirts, but I do feel knee length is a good standard for me and my girls. It's worth it to take extra steps to make sure our backs and rears are covered during altar call or sitting in church. The cultural norm of wearing tight fitting pants is another discussion that more Christians should have and the choices they make concerning that.

I had a woman in our church tell me that it's more the responsibility of the man to keep his wandering eye in line, but I disagree. The Bible tells us to be aware of things we may do that could cause another to sin. What if a couple is struggling in their marriage; or a man's wife is sick and not up to par; or he's a single newly saved man just entering into the relationship with Christ... or-- the list could go on and on.

Sometimes my husband and I fall into the category of walking away saying, "What were they thinking?"

Maybe they need attention, maybe their husband needs that worldly confirmation that he has a pretty wife. Maybe the woman actually likes the other men's attention.

But I think God has called the Christian not to be stumbling block for others and that our beauty is not in our attire or tied to our immodesty. The Christian world should not be blending in with the unsaved, but setting itself apart. That is the femininity that I am trying to instill and contend for in each of my daughter's lives.

Teaching them to set themselves apart and contend for the higher things God has for them.