system.

My husband and I are quick learners. We can watch, read and listen to the great ways other large families parent and figure out how it can work for us. But as you know, the hard part is implementing the idea and being consistent in its application.

Without being boring, too legalistic or too dictatorial, we use calendars, charts and lists for just about everything. It takes the trouble out of all the little things that can waste our time or cause frustration when we have 7 (soon to be 8) little cupcakes running around the house. It also helps minimize inefficiency. That way, trips to the store are more productive and items aren't forgotten, chores are completed and meals have all the ingredients necessary.

Children need their leaders (us parents) to know what they're doing and where they're heading.

This doesn't mean we can't bend the calendars, charts and lists when we just want to enjoy the sunshine for a bit or go out for dinner. In fact, it makes it easier when we want to kick off our shoes and party, because we know exactly where we stand with all our daily activities. We do like to have fun, but we also want to make the best use of our time possible especially since we do so much in the areas of church and home.

We don't want to be slaves to the things we need to do-- which is why having a household system that helps things run smoothly is a priority.

We don't want the necessities of life to control us; but for us to be in control of them.